We are about a month into 2020 and i’m sure many people have had new year resolutions come and go. I know I have! That’s perfectly okay. I think its conventionally believed that if you don’t live up to a resolution that you have to wait until next year to try again! How ridiculous is that? I haven’t done everything I promised myself I would do but I have done some real work on changing something that can dominate my whole day. My thinking. I truly believe changing your thinking can completely revolutionize your life. How do we go about that?
I realized that when I wake up in the morning, I have terrible thoughts. Thoughts that can completely dictate how I go about my entire day, it can be very draining. I had a revelation a few months ago that before I go about all of these new, inspiring changes I want to implement, I simply had to change how I think about myself and about my everyday life. The fear, worries and negativity had to go. How did i do that? Well there was a few ways I went about it.
During my addiction I spent all day and night tearing myself down in every way imaginable, it was crippling. I figured a lot of those thoughts would go away after drug inpatient treatment but they were still there. I could be anywhere, doing anything and the destructive thoughts would flood my head. It was almost worse because I was now present and could feel again.
I began implementing new practices and ideas to combat these thoughts I was having. The first thing I started doing was writing down the thoughts I was having that really stuck out to me as hurtful. Something about writing them down really lets you see how ridiculous some of them are. The things I would write down were also things I wouldn’t even say to my worst enemy, yet here I was telling them to myself.
Positive affirmations were something I always heard about and thought it was a little corny, it sounded like too simple solution to a very complex problem. I decided to give them an opportunity anyways, just telling myself simple things whenever my mind would get too loud, things such as:
- I love myself
- I’m doing my best
- I’m good enough
- I have a great life
- I’m happy with where i’m headed
- I love my family
I bet for some people, just reading those now provided some relief. For many of us, unfortunately, our minds don’t naturally think this way. We are wired to be negative and critical of ourselves. When we through there simple positive phrases into our thinking, it feels so against the grain but you can tangibly feel the negativity being blown away. It’s a great feeling.
Since starting positive affirmations I have grown into a few practices that I start my morning with that set the tempo perfectly.
Here are some practices you can include in your mornings to give yourself that extra positive push you may need :
- Writing – There is a lot of power in pen and paper, writing about what you are grateful for, plans for the day, or just something you want to tell yourself. Writing is a great way to inspire yourself and really enforce positive energy into your day
- Visualizing – Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10 year? When I ask that there is a picture in your mind that organically comes to mind. Whatever that picture is, think about it every single day. There is a mysterious power to visualizing these types of things. Studies show it can naturally bring you to where you want to be.
- Meditation – Find a time that works for you to sit down, be still and quiet your mind. Meditation for beginners is hard but can be rewarding right away. There is something about focusing on your breath for a few minutes in the morning. It creates a certain energy that can motivate you all day and have you realize some new truths about yourself.
- Practice Gratitude – Gratitude is an action word, go out of your way to tell someone how much you appreciate them or maybe buy something small for someone you care about out of the blue, the feelings these things generate on both sides are invaluable.
Creating A New You
The best thing about these practices? They do not take a lot of time out of your day. We are talking about taking about 15 minutes in the morning and throughout your day. These things have had a major impact on my perspective not only about the world around me, but about myself. I walk around lighter and in better spirits. I attribute it all to these simple practices and the power they have behind them.
Our minds can become a dark place, a place that encompasses how we carry ourselves and how we treat others. The mind brings people to places that are unimaginable and have serious consequences, it’s the most powerful thing in the world. Start to treat yourself better as we enter this new decade. We all fall short at times and it doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, it matters that you get back up.